Kirstin Carl, LMFT Therapist in Encino, CA

Attachment-Based Therapy for Trauma, Dating, Relationships, and Couples

In Person in Encino and Online Across California

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT)

CA License #53759

Telehealth Across California

Encino, CA Office

CAMFT Member

Therapy tailored to where
you are right now.

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For nearly 20 years, I’ve worked with adults who have carried anxiety, depression, and relationship pain that did not fully shift through insight, coping skills, or trying harder. If you’ve spent years understanding your patterns but still find yourself caught in them, there may be more happening beneath the surface. You may have learned early on that closeness could be unpredictable or conditional, or that certain feelings, needs, or parts of yourself weren’t acceptable. Even though the ways you learned to protect yourself made sense at the time, they no longer serve you.
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KIRSTIN CARL THERAPY

My work is attachment-based, somatic, relational, and trauma-informed.

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In my work, we look not only at your thoughts and beliefs, but also at how earlier experiences have shaped your body, emotions, protective patterns, and relationships. In therapy, new emotional experiences can begin to update old patterns, giving you more space to respond to the present instead of reliving the past. I work to create a relationship where being truly seen, heard, and understood can become part of the healing itself.
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Therapy vs Coaching

A Licensed Therapist Explains the Difference

Many people try apps, AI chatbots, journaling, or self-help resources before starting therapy — and that makes sense as places to jump in. These tools can offer reflection, validation, language for your inner experience, and prompts to begin noticing patterns. But they cannot track your patterns across time, gently challenge you when you may be avoiding something important, or be held professionally accountable for what they tell you.

A related distinction comes up when people compare therapy with life coaching. The difference is not whether goals, habits, motivation, or accountability matter. Both therapy and coaching cansupport those areas. Therapy also allows us to explore the deeper emotional and relational patterns that can make those changes difficult. A licensed therapist brings clinical training to a relationship where your history, emotions, protective patterns, and ways of relating can be understood together over time.

Training

Graduate-level clinical education, supervised clinical experience, licensing exams, and ongoing continuing education.

Scope

Psychotherapy can help with anxiety, depression, trauma, relationships, life transitions, and other emotional concerns, while also supporting goals, habits, motivation, accountability, and personal or professional growth. Therapy gives us room to explore the deeper emotional and relational patterns that can keep you stuck and make change difficult.

Ethics & Oversight

Regulated by a state licensing board and held to legal and ethical standards for confidentiality, boundaries, documentation, and client care.

What Each Can Help With

Trauma, anxiety, depression, difficulties with trust and closeness, relationship distress, family patterns, life transitions, and other emotional or relational concerns. Therapy can also support goal-setting, decision-making, motivation, accountability, and personal or professional growth.

Insurance

Therapy may be eligible for out-of-network reimbursement if your plan includes out-of-network mental health benefits.

Not sure whether therapy is the right fit for you?

A free 30-minute phone consultation gives us a chance to talk about what you’re looking for.

Training

Training varies widely. Some coaches complete certification programs, but life coaching itself does not require a California mental health license.

Scope

Often focuses on goals, habits, motivation, accountability, and personal or professional growth. Coaching can be helpful for practical support and forward movement, while psychotherapy also allows us to explore how emotions, earlier experiences, and relationship patterns may be influencing what is happening now.

Ethics & Oversight

Ethical standards vary depending on the coach’s training or certification. Life coaching is not regulated as a mental health profession by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.

What Each Can Help With

Goal-setting, habits, decision-making, motivation, accountability, life transitions, and personal or professional growth. Coaching is not psychotherapy or mental health treatment.

Insurance

Coaching is generally not reimbursed by health insurance as mental health treatment.

Not sure whether therapy is the right fit for you?

A free 30-minute phone consultation gives us a chance to talk about what you’re looking for.

How It Works

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Free 30-Minute Phone Consultation

Before we speak, I’ll send you a brief questionnaire so you can share what is bringing you to therapy and what you’re hoping to change. During the consultation, we’ll talk about what’s going on, you can get a feel for how I work, and we can decide whether working together feels like a good fit.
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Schedule Your First Session

If we decide to work together, we’ll find a weekly session time that works for both of us. I’ll also send you a link to my secure client portal so you can complete your intake forms before our first session.
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Begin Weekly Therapy

Sessions are available in person at my Encino office or online throughout California. We’ll meet weekly at your regular session time and continue to shape the work around what you’re hoping to understand, change, and experience differently.
I am a private-pay, out-of-network therapist. If your plan includes out-of-network mental health benefits, you may be eligible for reimbursement for a portion of the session fee, and I can submit claims on your behalf when eligible.

What Clients Have Shared About Working With Me

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Frequently Asked Questions

How do I find the right therapist near me in Encino?
If you’re looking for a therapist near you in Encino, I offer a free 30-minute phone consultation. Before we speak, I’ll send you a brief questionnaire so you can share what is bringing you to therapy and what you’re hoping to change. During the consultation, we’ll talk about what’s going on, you can get a feel for how I work, and we can decide whether working together feels like a good fit. My office is located on Ventura Boulevard in Encino, and I also offer online therapy throughout California.You can schedule a free 30-minute consultation or (818) 593-9047

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT, CA License #53759) in Encino. I practice therapy, not coaching. That distinction matters: as an LMFT I am licensed, clinically trained, and bound by a professional code of ethics. I can diagnose, treat, and work with trauma and complex mental health concerns in a way that coaches are not trained or licensed to do.

My therapy office is located at 16530 Ventura Blvd. #400, Encino, CA 91436. I offer in-person sessions at this location and online sessions to clients anywhere in California.

I’m a private-pay, out-of-network therapist and am not in-network with any insurance plans. If you have a PPO plan, you may have out-of-network benefits and could be reimbursed a percentage of the session rate after meeting your deductible. As a courtesy, I can submit out-of-network claims electronically on your behalf when eligible, or provide a superbill for you to submit. Reimbursement is paid directly to you, and many clients also use HSA/FSA funds. Rates are discussed during a free phone consultation.

As a trauma therapist and attachment therapist in Encino, CA, I specialize in trauma therapy, attachment-based therapy, therapy for parents, dating and relationship therapy, and couples therapy, along with the anxiety and depression that so often accompany them. The people I work with are not struggling because something is wrong with them. They are struggling because early experiences shaped patterns that were once protective and are now getting in the way.

Yes. As a couples therapist in Encino, CA, I work from an attachment-based perspective, focusing on the underlying patterns that create distance and disconnection. Most relationship conflict is not really about the surface argument—the kitchen towels, the dishwasher, or the small thing that started the fight. There are often deeper layers underneath, shaped by unresolved trauma, unmet needs, family-of-origin patterns, or earlier relationship experiences. Part of couples therapy is helping each partner feel more seen, heard, and like they matter to the person they love.

Attachment-based therapy looks at the relational patterns formed early in life that may still be quietly shaping your adult relationships. While some therapy focuses mainly on managing symptoms or solving present-day problems, attachment-based work also explores the deeper roots underneath those struggles. The goal is not only to feel better in the short term, but to understand why the same patterns keep showing up and begin to change them. As an attachment therapist in Encino, I help you work with what is happening in your current life while also exploring the early experiences and attachment wounds that may shape how you relate, protect yourself, and seek connection.

Online therapy platforms can make therapy feel more accessible, and some people try them first. Working directly with a private practice therapist is often more personal, consistent, clinically individualized, and able to go beneath the surface over time. You are not being matched by an algorithm or moved through a high-volume system. You are choosing a specific therapist whose training, experience, and approach fit what you are looking for. For trauma, attachment wounds, anxiety, depression, and relationship patterns, that continuity and depth can make a meaningful difference.

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